Life has changed dramatically for so many of us since the start of the pandemic caused by COVID 19. Lockdown has meant a time for reflecting as well as living a totally different way of life for so many of us.

This has brought with it many positive as well as negative aspects that have possibly enabled some of us to revaluate our lives and what is and what is not important to us.

Because of this fact, many of us have had time to think about what really makes us content in life and for some this has been challenging as well as being fruitful.

I have discovered through my counselling and psychotherapy services, that I am talking to people with many needs and they are not all not necessarily related to childbirth and pregnancy issues.

Therefore, I have extended my services to include counselling and psychotherapy for people with all needs such as depression, anxiety, weight loss, general family issues and couple counselling to name just a few.

Because of the COVID restrictions, I am still using online resources and telephone calls. I am able to see people face to face if this is what they would prefer and this can be safely achieved observing the social distancing and hygiene issues.

Life begins with birth this is true, but along the way, the river of life has many twists and turns and I can help you navigate them when the going gets rough.

The Sisterhood

Sisterhood is described as being a strong feeling of friendship and support among women who are involved in a shared activity or event. This ethos has been prevalent to all women at some times in their lives but never more so now with the world being in a state of total change.

This philosophy has never been more relevant than it is now with the world being in the midst of a pandemic. We are living in a world where so much has changed overnight but one thing that has not changed, is the fact that women are still becoming pregnant and giving birth.

It will be a worrying time if you are pregnant or have recently had a baby but rest assured that the midwifery and obstetric profession will be doing their very utmost to support you through this anxious time.

How to access information:

There are many websites for accessing information which will give you well balanced information and advice, such as the NHS website and Your local midwife will also be keeping you informed of the current situation and how you can best protect yourself and your unborn baby and family from infection and keep well.

You may find that you have to change or alter your birth plans slightly in order to protect yourself and your baby and if you are giving birth in hospital you will be looked after by professionals who will be wearing personal protection equipment, which although slightly alarming will not compromise the care and compassion and advice given to you by your midwife.

You and your baby will be safe and it will be an experience that is unique to you and although each and every birth is different to every woman, the process of giving birth is one that is shared with the whole sisterhood of women the world over.
Be strong and brave – you are not alone.

Your midwife is also part of the sisterhood. The meaning of midwife is ‘being with woman’

Currently I am available for counselling, talking or just discussing any anxieties that you will undoubtedly have. I am counselling via telephone, email, SKYPE or WhatsApp or Face Time/Messenger.

Baby Loss Awareness Week

baby in armsAs we come to the end of Baby Loss Awareness Week (9th – 15th October) a time when 60 charities and groups work together to raise awareness of key issues that affect people who have lost a baby, I thought it would be appropriate to reiterate the importance of knowing how your baby moves. How monitoring the usual pattern of your baby’s movements is important in preventing a possible baby loss.

Although there is no one answer to what contributes to losing a baby, there is a great deal of research being carried out  into the possible ways to prevent or at least reduce the incidents of a baby loss.

Please see safer pregnancy and baby’s movements for more information.

As you are probably aware by now, reading all the literature and discussing your baby’s movements with your midwife, you can usually feel movements at around 20 weeks of pregnancy or before if you have had previous pregnancies. A baby is considered viable (that is capable of life outside the womb) from about 24 weeks completed pregnancy.

You will find that your midwife will give you a leaflet explaining how to keep an eye on your baby’s movements when you are 24 weeks pregnant or before in some NHS trusts. You can also access this information at Your baby’s movements 

At every contact with your midwife or doctor, they will ask you if you are feeling the baby move and if it’s following its usual pattern of movement. Some of you may find this a strange question initially but observing and feeling your baby move is a good indication of how healthy and well the baby is in the womb. If a baby becomes unwell in the womb due to some infection or reduction in the function of the placenta, the first sign is a reduction, a change in baby’s movements or no baby movements at all.

You will get to know the pattern of your baby’s movements from about 26-28 weeks of pregnancy. Midwives and Obstetricians will ask you never to ignore any change or reduction in the baby’s movements and to contact your local hospital as soon as note any difference.

It is also not recommended that you buy a device called a Doppler for listening to the baby’s heartbeat yourself – you may be listening to your own heartbeat and be falsely reassured. Please do not also listen to ‘old wives’ tales about what a reduction in the baby’s movement’s means. Some women have told me many times that their well-meaning relatives have told them that a reduction in the baby’s movement’s means that labour is imminent, or that the baby has changed position for example. None of these or similar stories are true and a healthy baby will move vigorously even when you are in labour.

The midwives do not mind how many times you telephone in for advice about your baby’s movements or how many times you go into the maternity unit for a monitoring of the baby’s heartbeat.

This is when you can take a proactive approach to ensuring that your baby is born well and healthy by listening to your body and instincts and observing your baby’s movements.

Rosemary A Harris.